Roommate and Suitemate Agreements
The Roommate and Suitemate Agreements are tools to help you and those your living with develop essential communication skills. These include careful listening, open and honest feedback, and creating a mutually agreed living arrangement. Kick off the year by completing an agreement to set clear expectations for your shared space. Roommate Agreements are found in your Shocker Housing portal. If you ever have questions about the process, please contact your Resident Assistant (RA).
Concerns About Your Roommate
Adjusting to living with someone else can be challenging, but it’s an invaluable experience for young adults to go through. If you’re facing issues with your roommate, try to work them out together first. If you ever have concerns about a roommate or suitemate, please contact your RA as soon as possible. If your concerns are about your roommate’s safety, behavior, or wellbeing, you can also submit a CARE report or learn more about how you can help on their website.
Roommate Conflicts
Living with a roommate can lead to various conflicts, from messiness to noise levels, which are to be expected during this transitional time. These conflicts can impact your quality of life while living on campus. Here’s are some helpful tips and tricks on how to navigate these issues.
Establish Ground Rules
When you first move in, discuss your expectations and agree on rules for a harmonious living situation. This proactive approach can prevent conflicts down the line.
Listen to Your Feelings
Don’t let your frustration build up. Acknowledge your emotions and communicate them effectively to maintain a healthy living environment.
Think Before Reacting
If a situation is bothering you, take a moment to consider the issue. Ask yourself if it’s a consistent problem, if it impacts your daily life, if a compromise can be reached, or if there’s another way to cope.
Avoid Passive Aggression
Dropping hints or using indirect methods to express your dissatisfaction can increase tension. Be direct and clear in your communication.
Use “I” Statements
When discussing issues, use “I” statements instead of “you” statements to avoid making the other person feel attacked. Emphasize the value of your relationship and express your desire to resolve the issue together.
Take a Deep Breath
Conflict can cause anxiety. Use mindfulness techniques, like deep breathing, to stay calm and present. If you’re worried about retaliation, don’t hesitate to seek support from your community or a therapist.
Set Boundaries
Establishing boundaries can enhance healthy connections and strengthen relationships. Remember, conflict is a natural part of life, and resolving it in a respectful way is crucial.
Room Changes
At the end of the day, some conflicts cannot be resolved, and a room change is the best option for all parties. Room changes can be a long process and we always request patience with our residents while we find the best accommodation for your situation. You can submit a Room Change Request through the Shocker Housing Portal under the 'My Room' tab. Your RA and Residence Life Coordinator (RLC) may follow up with you before a room change can be approved.